Love Your Children, Love Being a Mom

When I began this blog I definitely had no intention of trying to give advice. I'm 37 years old and I have only been a lover of Christ for 10 years. The best ten years of my life. But I have heard some things lately from mothers that make me so sad to hear.So many frustrated moms, moms that choose work over their kids because they find their kids more difficult, moms that would rather die than hang out with other moms, moms that consider the word "mom" an insult and would rather be called "a woman who just happens to have kids". And no, these are not exaggerations, these are not things I've read on the news or heard from the friend of a friend of a friend. These are things I've heard from family members, neighbors, those around me every day, even moms inside my church, OUR church. How tragic. 

This is not Gods plan for moms! Mom is a badge to wear with humility and awe, God has given you this child to raise up to Him, He has allowed YOU to hold onto this child or these children until they go home to their True Father. We should be excited by the tiniest smile, the hands reaching up for a hug. Tears of happiness should fill our eyes when we see them lying in their beds, having fallen asleep in a weird position....because in that moment we are just overwhelmed with love for this precious soul God allowed us to borrow. We should run to get them when they fall. We should cry when they are hurt, we should not be able to resist grinning when they laugh over their favorite book or TV show. We should share a look with our husbands when our child graduates from college, or when they read their first word or take that first step, that says, "This is our child, we are SO BLESSED."

We should look at other moms with respect, with love. We should talk to them with encouragement, we should pray with them. We should pray for them. We should seek out older moms, whose children have flown the nest only to settle in another, still loving God and still seeking His will. We should go to them to get their advice, to ask for prayer, ask them how to better at being a mom. We should listen and we should be humble enough to believe that maybe we do need someones help. We should seek out older moms whose children have left the nest and are not following God. We should respect them and love them and, again, listen with humility because this could be our own child one day. They have learned lessons, lessons that maybe we ourselves need to learn. 

As an older mother and grandmother we should readily accept this responsibility with joy and with great honor. God gave us precious mom-souls to guide. We know how hard this is. We know what its like to go to bed crying over a teenagers outburst or something that we said that we shouldn't have said. Our phone numbers should be handed over to younger people with the kind words of, "I am here, I know how hard being a mom can be. Call me if you need anything." We should laugh when they tell us the funny thing their kids did, even though we saw our own kids do the same thing. We should look at their babies and coo and love on them and tell those young moms about the wonderful blessings that are in store. We should be present. We should be available. We should see the hurt or the happiness. We have mirrors, we have seen them before, we can pick that out and be right there. God gave this responsibility to us. Thank you, Lord.

The bible tells us how to be as women, as people, as moms:

We are to be strong. 
We are to be gentle. 
We are to be obedient. 
We are to be busy. 
We are to be loving. 
We are to be willing. 
We are to be submissive. 
We are to faithful. 
We are to be modest. 
We are to be missionaries. 
We are to teach. 
We are to learn.

So  many things that we are to do and be. And instead of letting this scare us, let it excite us. Instead of making a check list, let us just pray day and night that GOD show us through the Holy Spirit. 

Dear Jesus,
Thank you, so much Lord, for the moms. Please bless them with patience and with unconditional love for their children. Please let them feel the love their children have for them. Please let them see their children need the security of their love. Thank you God for my children. Please let them grow to love You above all. Please let them grow up with a desire to teach others about You. Please let them always do Your desire, even if what You choose for them is not my desire. Please keep me in tune with my children so I can know when it is You leading them or the world.
In Your most Holy name,
Amen.